As I continue to forge knee-deep into my parenting, I’ve been thinking a lot about the adage, it takes a village to raise a baby. It really does. I often feel like I’m working several full-time jobs just to *somewhat* manage everything. And I think of the mothers who don’t have a village to rely on. Instead of being supported, so many moms feel isolated and alone. Consider the statistic that 65 percent of moms report feeling lonely.
A Recipe for Loneliness
Rather than building a village, many moms can feel like their village has been taken. Weekends that used to be filled with nights out with friends may now be spent at home. Random weeknight drinks after work may not be an option anymore. And the stress of finding childcare may feel too overwhelming.
Especially for moms who have childless friends, it can feel hard to connect, relate to, or feel understood. Many stay-at-home moms face the reality of spending days without adult connection, yearning for the few opportunities to talk with another adult. For working moms, there can be so much time spent juggling caring for children and working that there is little time or energy left to connect with others. Either situation can create a sense of isolation.
Building Community
We know that humans are social creatures and that connection and belonging are essential for our well-being. So, how can we build community during this season of life?
1. Attend Child-Based Classes
There are so many classes tailored for little ones; from story time to swim class, there’s a class for just about everything. These opportunities can be great for your little one to socialize with others or be exposed to new environments and skills, and be a great space for you to meet with other moms who have children around a similar age as yours. So, if you have the time in your schedule, consider signing up for a class or attending a local event.
2. Try Out Classes or Interest Groups for Yourself
Classes don’t just have to be for your baby; they can also be for you. Carving out time for yourself is so important, especially when your life is spent caring for little ones. Think about what you may be interested in doing, maybe a fitness class, yoga, or art class. These can be wonderful opportunities to meet new people and have a break from constantly being a mom.
3. Consider Volunteer Opportunities
Volunteering can be a great way to become more involved in your community and give you a chance to get to know others. If there is a cause that you feel passionate about, see if there are any opportunities to get involved.
4. Join a Support Group
There are so many support groups available to moms in various seasons of motherhood. These can be amazing spaces to talk openly and connect with other moms who just get it. Consider looking around for local groups (either virtual or in-person) to find a support group that fits you. If you are having trouble finding a local group, Postpartum Support International also runs numerous *free* virtual groups.
