For teachers, parents, and students alike, those three words, back to school, can either be exciting or anxiety-producing. There’s so much to do to get ready and such pressure to make the beginning of the year go smoothly.
The following tips are meant to help ease the transition from a teacher’s perspective with over a decade of Septembers under her belt and a mama with just as many first-day pictures taken.
Tip 1: Label EVERYTHING
Start early and stay organized—label, label, label. I can’t stress this enough. If you saw my living room starting in August, you might think I robbed a Target. There are bags of school supplies all over the place! My children and I each get our own bins to hold our supplies as I buy them, and as they go in the bin, they get a label.
Let’s face it; school supply lists can be extensive and specific. However, these items are necessary for your student’s success (in the eyes of the school district). Often, depending on the community, teachers must keep checklists of which student has brought in what supply. On that first day, when you don’t even know the students’ names yet and 32 first graders are shoving tissue boxes in your face; it is so hard to keep track.
So, please label things! It will be so helpful in the long run. Also, labels will help teachers and schools when kids lose their belongings. Buy labels for things you expect to be returned (water bottles, mittens, backpacks), and use a Sharpie for things you don’t (tissues, glue). Two great brands for labels are Mabels Labels and Name Bubbles.
Tip 2: Don’t Wait! Start the Transition Now!
If you wait until the day before school starts to make your kid go to bed early, wake up early, etc., then it will be a shocking change. During the school year, my kids are up much earlier than they are in the summer, so as a result, they have to go to bed earlier. Instead of making the harsh change, I slowly set their bedtimes earlier and wake them up earlier. Then on those first days of school, they are used to it.
Do the same with other routines as well. If you want them to do homework as soon as they come home from school, let them do some reading or quiet work in the afternoons now. (Let’s face it, kids should be reading all year round anyway.) If you had trouble in previous years with routine, this is the year to try something new! Try a calendar or a chore chart to get some expectations clarified for them!
Tip 3: Relax! Be Patient!
This is a hard one, but remember, everyone involved is in a new situation. Give the teacher some breathing room to get acquainted with your child. If you have something you feel the teacher needs to know right away, write them a handwritten note. Include the child’s name and your email or cell phone number. This way, the teacher can read the note, know who it came from, and respond as necessary. This is so much better than the face-to-face conversation at first because, let’s face it, there’s a lot to remember, and the teacher, understandably, may not know your child well enough yet to properly process what you’re telling them.
As a mom, I get nervous for my kids in September. I want them to love the teacher. I want them to have friends. I want them to do well. It makes me nervous. But I’ll never show it. If I am nervous, my kids will be nervous too. So grin and bear it, mamas. You may be nervous, but your kids are stronger than you know. You’ve taught them well, and they will be great and soar. Even if they don’t have their best friend in class, or they have new glasses they are nervous about, it will be okay! Breathe and relax!
Tip 4: Help If You Can
September is such a crazy time in every household. Imagine how busy your teacher is too! As a teacher and a single mom with a kid who has a birthday on the first day of school almost every year, my September is insane. I am usually as exhausted as the kids are! The best thing that can happen to me in September is for an amazing mom (or dad) to offer some help.
I’ve had moms ask me if there was anything else I needed for the classroom. I’ve had others ask if they could come in and help. Even if the teacher turns you down, it feels amazing on our end to know that we have someone in our corner. Your time (even if it’s a tiny bit) is much more valuable to a teacher than a trinket anyway, so feel free to skip the back-to-school gift and say thanks!
Tip 5: Make It Special
We make holidays out of everything these days. National Talk Like A Pirate Day and Margarita Day are things now, so why not make back to school a special day too? Take the time to take a picture of your little one in front of the school. Get one of those chalkboards that are floating around Pinterest. Write a little special note and stick it in their backpack. Put them in a new or fancy outfit. A little glam makes everyone feel confident for their first day.
For a nervous little one, making it seem like a super special holiday might excite them and ease their nerves. When my little one was super nervous, I bought a little stuffed animal, slept with it, and called it her brave buddy. I told her that when she slept with me, it got my bravery and would help her be great at school. I slipped it into the bottom of her backpack, where it stayed on the first day. Knowing it was there helped her immensely.
When your kiddo come out on their first day, have a real conversation with her. Ask your child how the day was with specific questions like, “Who did you sit next to?” or “Tell me what your classroom looked like.” Listen and respond specifically to what they are saying. This will help them feel like their day in school was important and special. If your student comes home with less than happy answers, talk them through it and see if you can problem-solve together.