My older daughter just entered elementary school and is still learning to handle and control her emotions. So I often wonder, am I being too tough on her? Am I putting too much pressure on her to be or act perfect in front of her younger sister?
This may also stem from a recent parent-teacher conference which went very well, but it was noted that my daughter is a perfectionist. It would make sense for her to yell or scream a little bit at home after keeping it all together at school. After all, five-year-olds have lots of energy!
On the one hand, by nature, she is the older one, and my little one is at the moment testing boundaries. Sometimes my older daughter will laugh when the younger one is “testing us,” which encourages the younger one’s behavior. I often tell her not to laugh or respond, but the reality is she is only five.
Of course, she wants to laugh and respond to her little sister, who is “so cute.” How does a parent react appropriately to this without encouraging some of the behavior and at the same time without putting it on the older one to “behave” a certain way as a role model?
I am unsure what I am doing is the best way to handle this. On the flip side, maybe a better strategy would be for me to acknowledge the behavior and re-direct it for everyone. In theory, this sounds like a better idea, but I am not sure how practical it is for a busy mom.