My Journey to Mom: Meet Janine

Hi, everyone. I’d love to share my journey to mom of my four babies.

I am Janine, a mom of two angels and two rainbows living in Port Chester, NY. Wine, coffee, Friends reruns, cooking, exploring new places, and meeting new people make me tick. Wanting a complete change of scenery (I grew up in Stratford, CT), I journeyed to various colleges before switching gears and pursuing my passion, baking.

After graduating with a culinary degree, I became an executive pastry chef, a cake designer, and a corporate sous chef in NYC. I married my husband, Bryce, in 2012, knowing pretty early on that he was the one! My journey to motherhood is unique, and I am thrilled to be here sharing my story and advice.

Becoming a mother did not come easily to me, and each of my children is an IVF miracle.

Our struggle with infertility brought us closer together as a couple but also brought with it sadness and stress. We remained hopeful, though, and were blessed with identical twins. Gavin and Chase were born in June of 2014. Sadly, I delivered them at only 21 weeks and 2 days gestation, and due to their severe prematurity, they each only lived for two short hours.

Losing my children was the lowest point of my life. I battled severe depression, overwhelming guilt, PTSD, withdrawal from family and friends, and basically, the world.

Through grief therapy and a wonderful support group (Hope After Loss), I was able to start allowing light back into my life. We decided to open our hearts to IVF again with a frozen embryo. My rainbow baby, Nora, was born in August of 2015.

Becoming a mother to a living child was my life’s most joyful, frightening, and beautiful experience.

Parenting after loss is so incredible but also so challenging at times. I worried about every single thing and still battle feelings of fear and guilt. I hope to share with you some of my journey about pregnancy and parenting after loss, as I know firsthand that loss moms struggle with the juxtaposition of joy and grief.

In February 2017, we tried more fertility treatments to give our daughter a living sibling, but unfortunately, we were unsuccessful. Feeling broken and defeated, we almost gave up. After talking to friends and our fertility doctor, we decided to try IVF one last time.

Our son, Nolan, was born four weeks early in November 2017. His stay in the NICU brought back feelings of depression and PTSD, which was very challenging for me. I am now starting to feel like myself again, finding a new normal of mothering two children in Heaven and two on Earth.

We talk about our angels daily, and I owe the mother I am today to my twin boys.

Having always wanted to be a mother (yes, I was the weird 8-year-old who dressed up as a pregnant mom for Halloween – my parents must have been mortified), spending every day with my babies is such a blessing. Finances are tight, but I wouldn’t trade being a SAHM for anything. We go on adventures, have dance parties in our living room, bake, and do crafts. We sometimes stay in our jammies until 2 p.m. (don’t judge me), eat breakfast for dinner (homemade vanilla cinnamon pancakes, anyone?), and have piles of laundry on our couch, but hey, you only live once, and the kids aren’t complaining.

What matters most is that my kids remember me playing with them, being silly, and being their number one fan.

They aren’t little forever! I am so excited to contribute to Westchester County Mom because I believe that we, as moms, are stronger in numbers. A mama tribe where we all feel supported, loved, and cheered on is important to me, and I look forward to connecting with you.