Father’s Day (along with any parent-focused holiday or, really, holidays in general, for that matter!) can hold joy and grief at the same time.
For some, it’s a day filled with celebration. A chance to honor a father, husband, grandfather, uncle, or a father figure who has shown up with love and consistency. For others, Father’s Day serves as a reminder of what is missing. A father who is gone. A relationship that never existed. A partner who walked away. A role that has been carried alone.
In my opinion, part of what makes these holidays so emotional is that becoming a parent changes the way we see our own childhood. Suddenly, we’re not just reflecting on our parents from a child’s perspective. We’re looking at them through the lens of parenthood itself.
That reflection is filled with gratitude for many. I know so many families who are recreating traditions, repeating lessons, and appreciating their parents in ways they never could before.
But for some, it’s much more complicated. Parenthood has a way of highlighting the pieces that were missing. But what I find to be one of the most rewarding parts of being a parent is the opportunity to have a second chance at righting some wrongs.
While we can’t change what happened in our childhood, we can heal as we set new traditions for our own children and shape what’s to come. I personally take a no-frills approach to these types of holidays. I do believe there are sentimental ways we can make these days feel meaningful. 
1. Share a favorite memory.
Take a few minutes to tell your father figure about a specific moment that meant something to you. The details matter more than you think.
2. Ask questions and listen.
Whether it’s over coffee, dinner, or a phone call, use this day as an opportunity to learn more about the father figure in your life. Maybe it’s his biggest life lessons or what fatherhood has taught him. These conversations often become treasured memories.
3. Create a keepsake.
Have children draw pictures, write letters, or share what they love most about their father figures in their lives. These heartfelt gifts are often the ones that are saved for years.
4. Start a new tradition.
A special breakfast, an annual photo, a Father’s Day hike or a handwritten note each year can become something the whole family looks forward to.
5. Honor the father figures in your life.
Fatherhood isn’t always defined by biology. Consider reaching out to a grandfather, stepfather, uncle, mentor, coach, or anyone who has helped shape your life.
6. Reflect on the legacy you’re building.
For parents, Father’s Day can also be a chance to think about the values, traditions, and memories you’re creating for your own children. Sometimes the most meaningful gift is simply being present.
As we scroll through some picture-perfect tributes this weekend, it’s worth remembering that every family has its own story. Some are celebrating. Some are grieving. Some are writing a new story each day.
Wherever you find yourself this Father’s Day, may you give yourself permission to feel exactly what you feel. Holidays don’t look the same for everyone, and that’s okay.
