Ditch the Pressure of Perfection


A woman carrying her son on her back.We all dream of being the picture-perfect parent, with spotless houses, gourmet meals, and never-ending patience. But let’s face it: chasing perfection leads to exhaustion and frustration.

Here’s the truth: we can be incredible moms WITHOUT being perfect. ‍Let’s commit to ditching the pressure of perfection and embracing the beautiful mess that is motherhood! Here are some tips to get us started.

1. Teamwork Makes the Dream Work

Is your husband a whiz at bedtime stories? Delegate! Does your little one love helping with laundry? Put those tiny hands to work! Sharing the load makes things easier for everyone.

2. Communication is Key

Talk openly with your partner. Let them know what needs to be done, and don’t be afraid to ask for help! A simple “Honey, can you tackle the dishes tonight?” can make a world of difference.

3. Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help

Need a break? Reach out to a friend or family member. Feeling overwhelmed with errands? See if a neighbor can lend a hand. We all need support — let’s ask for it!

Why is this important? Letting go of perfection is the first step to self-care, and self-care benefits EVERYONE! It allows us to focus on our mental and physical health. This is especially crucial for pelvic floor health!

Here’s the connection:

  • Chronic stress can contribute to pelvic floor dysfunction.
  • Lack of sleep (a common side effect of being “Superwoman”) can worsen existing pelvic floor issues.
  • Self-care (like getting enough sleep and delegating tasks) allows your body to recover and can actually improve pelvic floor relaxation and strength.

We can all work towards a more balanced life (and a happier pelvic floor!).

We need to lower our standards a bit. A perfectly tidy house is lovely, but a peaceful family is priceless. Let some things go! Then schedule some self-care; even 15 minutes of “me-time” can work wonders. Take a relaxing bath, read a book, or simply sit in quiet reflection. And most importantly, embrace the imperfect. Burnt dinner? It happens to the best of us! Spilled milk? Let’s laugh it off! Life is messy, and that’s okay.

Let’s be real moms, supporting each other on this crazy, beautiful journey! Remember, a happy and healthy you is the best foundation for a happy and healthy family!

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Shikaha's journey as a Physical Therapist began in 2012 after completing an MS in Health & Rehabilitation Services from the University of Pittsburgh. Since then, she has dedicated her efforts to assisting individuals grappling with various orthopedic conditions, including postural impairments, joint pain, post-operative rehabilitation, and sport-related injuries. In 2016, she graduated as a DPT from Arcadia University, sharpening her manual skills through evidence-based treatment strategies. Her life took a transformative turn in 2020 when she experienced the joy of giving birth to her beloved son. While she cherished the precious bond formed with her son, she encountered numerous challenges ranging from nursing difficulties, anxiety, pelvic pain, leaks, Diastasis recti, and lethargy to a loss of self-awareness. This mix of experiences left her feeling overwhelmed. Today, three years into postpartum, she takes great pride in her ability to be a fit and content mother. Achieving this state necessitated significant dedication, hard work, and the unwavering support of her family. All this wouldn't have been possible without a clear understanding of the pelvic floor and its role in helping women return to a prior level of function and poise. Equipped with expertise in orthopedic and pelvic health conditions, Shikha reaches out to women, inviting them to embrace an active lifestyle with unwavering confidence under her guidance.


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